What a moving and powerful film…THE HELP! If only each of us grew up with that mantra so that the lies of self-doubt and unworthiness would stop haunting us. In the movie the main character Abaleen (a black maid and nanny) would say to the 4 year old child that she cares for, these words each day…You is kind, You is smart, You is important. In the movie the mother would ignore her child and treat her badly. The little girl just loved Abaleen and told her that she was her real mom. She felt safe and loved in the arms of her caregiver.
As adults we can become shut down or re-active when we are shamed or feel unloved. Our childhood wounds create an ignition of negative thoughts and feelings. Needing others love and approval continues to keep us reliving patterns and relationships that make us feel not good enough.
It is our responsibility to take care of our emotional body. No one can fix us or take care of us emotionally. Our connection with our inner pain of self-doubt, resentment, guilt, shame and disappointment keeps us available to our own life. If we don’t feel lovable, kind, smart, important or beautiful than it is time to change our beliefs and plug into the void of love inside.
Plugging into someone else to get our needs met will not be healthy for us either. Walking on eggshells and becoming inauthentic when it comes to our relationships will eventually turn others off and cause us resentment and disappointment.
When we are needy for love we put up with disrespect and abusive behavior. Controlling others for love has conditions and creates unsafe experiences within any relationship.
Our void of love is connected to self-worth issues stemming from childhood beliefs.
Put the energy into becoming a healthy man or woman. Become authentic and attractive from within and attract your reflection.
Move away any negative feelings about yourself and become connected to your valuable, lovable and worthy self.
Look at your significant relationships and acknowledge the truth.
Discover how to love and be loved!
Say outloud! "I am kind, I am smart and I am important"!
Monday, February 13, 2012
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Make The Choice To Connect
I fed my spirit with time needed and reconnected to my daily pleasures and joyful nurchering.
No one will give us the time to take care of ourself, it is always our choice and our planning.
When days are so full I try to wake up with the sunrise and connect within as I breathe in consciously the precious moments of care giving for myself.
Rushing around with deadlines and details continue to try to take me away from the importance of my needs.
Days seem to fly by and the detication to my health and wellness has to be woven into everything I do.
When I care and support myself I will be supported and resentment won't build up and make me a victim.
Uncomfortable negativity can be released when I acknowledge my feelings.
When my heart opens I connect to the presence and moving forward is easier.
I look at any emotional pain as a great opportunity to be with myself.
Safe communication and intimacy with loved ones can be the pathway to awarness.
Choosing to care for my own heart continues to create a sacred space for anyone who enters my daily life.
Day and night time rituals keep me connected with my mind, body, soul and spirit.
Make the choice to connect!
No one will give us the time to take care of ourself, it is always our choice and our planning.
When days are so full I try to wake up with the sunrise and connect within as I breathe in consciously the precious moments of care giving for myself.
Rushing around with deadlines and details continue to try to take me away from the importance of my needs.
Days seem to fly by and the detication to my health and wellness has to be woven into everything I do.
When I care and support myself I will be supported and resentment won't build up and make me a victim.
Uncomfortable negativity can be released when I acknowledge my feelings.
When my heart opens I connect to the presence and moving forward is easier.
I look at any emotional pain as a great opportunity to be with myself.
Safe communication and intimacy with loved ones can be the pathway to awarness.
Choosing to care for my own heart continues to create a sacred space for anyone who enters my daily life.
Day and night time rituals keep me connected with my mind, body, soul and spirit.
Make the choice to connect!
Friday, May 6, 2011
A Mother's Faith
Every picture that I have seen of our Mother when she was pregnant seemed to capture how she just glowed in a radiance of love. She was told that she could never have children and her faith created her love story.
It was before ultra sound and the doctor had to rely on his stethoscope as he announced that there was more than one heart beat.
Over the next six months it was becoming obvious that Mom was carrying triplets...there were three separate heart beats and a lot of movement.
Mom's dream wa coming true as she anticipated motherhood.
When she would share her excitement with Dad he would hold her and together they giggled nervously as they embarked on their journey.
I can't imagine how busy it was to have three babies at once.
I miss Mom's stories and I remember how she expressed them with such gratitude. Being a Mother was her greatest gift and accomplishment. This sacred place of memories would resonate with happiness and devotion each time she would share her care giving experience as a young Mom.
It is Mother's Day and I am feeling the beauty of Mom's heart and the journey that she took with Motherhood. I miss you Mom! Thank you for being my inspiration.
Today I celebrate all Mothers with Gratitude.
*If you are interested in seeing the expanded version of this wonderful miracle, sign up for my Newsletter today at http://www.theinnerworkout.com/ or http://www.colleenhoffmansmith.com/
It was before ultra sound and the doctor had to rely on his stethoscope as he announced that there was more than one heart beat.
Over the next six months it was becoming obvious that Mom was carrying triplets...there were three separate heart beats and a lot of movement.
Mom's dream wa coming true as she anticipated motherhood.
When she would share her excitement with Dad he would hold her and together they giggled nervously as they embarked on their journey.
I can't imagine how busy it was to have three babies at once.
I miss Mom's stories and I remember how she expressed them with such gratitude. Being a Mother was her greatest gift and accomplishment. This sacred place of memories would resonate with happiness and devotion each time she would share her care giving experience as a young Mom.
It is Mother's Day and I am feeling the beauty of Mom's heart and the journey that she took with Motherhood. I miss you Mom! Thank you for being my inspiration.
Today I celebrate all Mothers with Gratitude.
*If you are interested in seeing the expanded version of this wonderful miracle, sign up for my Newsletter today at http://www.theinnerworkout.com/ or http://www.colleenhoffmansmith.com/
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Each Day Is A New Beginning
Each day is a new beginning, another opportunity to start again, to refresh ourselves and begin to live with more understanding.
Each moment is a precious time for connection within and with another.
Our pain is a doorway to more life.
Every struggle is the pathway to change.
All relationships are the reflection of our inner feelings.
Our breath takes us to physical, emotional and spiritual connection.
Illness moves us to healthy choices.
Time passes... yet being present with our full life creates the presence of more life.
Today let's begin again.....BREATHE.
Release any negative thoughts and feelings.
Forgive this or that...forgive him or her....forgive yourself.
Breathe into compassion....breathe into your heart that is open.
Shine the light as you breathe with ease.
Connect to the presence of love, joy, faith and acceptance.
Begin your day with gratitude...live your life with gratefulness.
End your day feeling peace.
Rest now .....
Dream and manifest your desires.
Begin again....another wonderful chance to be in love.
Each moment is a precious time for connection within and with another.
Our pain is a doorway to more life.
Every struggle is the pathway to change.
All relationships are the reflection of our inner feelings.
Our breath takes us to physical, emotional and spiritual connection.
Illness moves us to healthy choices.
Time passes... yet being present with our full life creates the presence of more life.
Today let's begin again.....BREATHE.
Release any negative thoughts and feelings.
Forgive this or that...forgive him or her....forgive yourself.
Breathe into compassion....breathe into your heart that is open.
Shine the light as you breathe with ease.
Connect to the presence of love, joy, faith and acceptance.
Begin your day with gratitude...live your life with gratefulness.
End your day feeling peace.
Rest now .....
Dream and manifest your desires.
Begin again....another wonderful chance to be in love.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Happy Father's Day....Love Waits for You to Arrive
Turning inward and connecting to the presence of your heart....Breathe deeply as the doorway opens to your inner sight. See beyond your physical self into a new world that connects you to the truth of who you truly are.
Sit a while in this sacred place and feel the richness of all that you came here to be.
See each person in your world from this love that is unconditional.
Embrace every moment with the joy of your full heart. Share your gift of safe love and arrive here in this moment fully present.
Deepen with your heart as you Breathe deeply.
Visualize your Father and stand before him with an oopen heart. Remember the man he came here to be.
Forgiveness is our most valuable gift of freedom.
Forgiveness sets us FREE.
Look into your Father's eyes and
see the doorway to a world of
peace and union.
Love waits for you to arrive.
ENJOY YOUR FATHER'S DAY CELEBRATION!
Sit a while in this sacred place and feel the richness of all that you came here to be.
See each person in your world from this love that is unconditional.
Embrace every moment with the joy of your full heart. Share your gift of safe love and arrive here in this moment fully present.
Deepen with your heart as you Breathe deeply.
Visualize your Father and stand before him with an oopen heart. Remember the man he came here to be.
Forgiveness is our most valuable gift of freedom.
Forgiveness sets us FREE.
Look into your Father's eyes and
see the doorway to a world of
peace and union.
Love waits for you to arrive.
ENJOY YOUR FATHER'S DAY CELEBRATION!
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Heaven is felt
My first Mother's Day without my Mom. The day took me through the pathway of emotions where I landed...a deeper coonnection with my life and truth.
I wrote this today....
Now that Mom is gone, I realize that heaven for me was in her heart. That is where I always felt uncondional love and a safe place to share my pain and fears.
She never judged or criticized me. Mom always made me feel my worth and she held me when I didn't.
I can be with her when I give to my children the same space and time. This connection of a Mother's heart was handed to me when I was born. 56 years of living it with her strengthened this sacred temple in me...
A MOTHER'S HEART CHANBER OF LOVE, FAITH, UNDERSTANDING AND HOPE.
I am so grateful
I wrote this today....
Now that Mom is gone, I realize that heaven for me was in her heart. That is where I always felt uncondional love and a safe place to share my pain and fears.
She never judged or criticized me. Mom always made me feel my worth and she held me when I didn't.
I can be with her when I give to my children the same space and time. This connection of a Mother's heart was handed to me when I was born. 56 years of living it with her strengthened this sacred temple in me...
A MOTHER'S HEART CHANBER OF LOVE, FAITH, UNDERSTANDING AND HOPE.
I am so grateful
Friday, May 7, 2010
Happy Mother's Day
This is the first Mother's Day without my Mom! I am spring cleaning at our parents and family home on the lake this week. As I sort out and re-organize closets, I am being taken down memory lane. Mom kept her treasures and I haave the honor to peek into them. I have spent hours as time unfolds the many gifts left behind. I laugh with sweet joy and I cry with tears of love as I feel her energy around me.
With Mother's day coming, I feel the loss of my Mom. As I reach into the emptiness that grief takes me, I journey to the details in cards she received and notes she wrote. Every compartment of a hutch or drawer holds precious gifts of Mom's life that she treasured.
As I journey with my life without my Mother physically, I feel her so present and I know that she is here with me in my heart. My tears have created more space and this is where she lives.
When I connect to my heart I feel you Mom.
Thank you, I miss you xoxoxo
To all Mothers....May you feel grace and loveliness as you connect to family love as your reflection. I am in gratitude to your loving kindness.
I celebrate each of you.
As a Mother, I give thanks to my children for choosing me to be their Mom.
I love you to the moon and back.
HAVE A LOVING MOTHER'S DAY
With Mother's day coming, I feel the loss of my Mom. As I reach into the emptiness that grief takes me, I journey to the details in cards she received and notes she wrote. Every compartment of a hutch or drawer holds precious gifts of Mom's life that she treasured.
As I journey with my life without my Mother physically, I feel her so present and I know that she is here with me in my heart. My tears have created more space and this is where she lives.
When I connect to my heart I feel you Mom.
Thank you, I miss you xoxoxo
To all Mothers....May you feel grace and loveliness as you connect to family love as your reflection. I am in gratitude to your loving kindness.
I celebrate each of you.
As a Mother, I give thanks to my children for choosing me to be their Mom.
I love you to the moon and back.
HAVE A LOVING MOTHER'S DAY
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